Dear Ridewithme38,
I dont have a problem giving food and water to a person in need, heck I would have prepared an entire lunch for him, and his family if he had one. Usually, when someone comes to my door, they KNOCK. They do not open it quietly, sneak through the house, check every bedroom, then go to the kitchen and raid my refrigerator. That is beyond rude, it is trespassing. I shouldnt have to "ask" him to leave, and such a suggestion is ridiculous.
Our neighborhood has been the target of MANY breakins since the economy took a fall. Dogs have been pistol whipped, jewelry has been stolen, electronics taken, doors have been bashed in, furniture has been thrown in swimming pools....Two guys were apprehended, they broke into the house near us where the college girls lived- they moved as soon as humanly possible.. Another guy was apprehended that was going around at night stealing everything out of unlocked cars, so he could pawn it, because he wanted his stripper girl friend to quit her job. One of the families whose car he broke into was so alarmed that they moved as soon as humanly possible.
I recently bought a lunch for a "poor unarmed starving guy". He ripped the meat out of the sandwich, then threw the rest away. Certainly not what I would do if I were begging for money to buy my lunch. I
I was also accosted by a young woman at gas station begging for gas money with some story of er boyfriend dumping her there. The clerk informed me this was her thing and NOT to give her any money.
Now that this person has safely come in to my house, past my three dogs, my house is a mark. He knows he can invade it safely again, and he may escalate his crime. We dont know IF he was armed or not. That was an assumption on your part.
The women in this ungated community are nervous. Maria has a young family, and is now considering moving too. As kind-hearted as many of them are, I dont think they are going to even crack the door for a vagrant now. So now he/ they are really down on their luck.
You also dont know what we give our dimes to. You have no idea what we charitably give to.