I agree, every situation is different.
Basically my point is for people (and I work with many) that like to jump in with the cheering of bomb the whole country, men, women and children.
For the most part I believe that people over there (and other American hater countries) are just trying to live their lives as we do, day by day, feed the family etc....
so my analogy of the neighbors is that the family didn't have anything to do with the dad's actions, just like most people in the other countries could care less about us, they're just trying to make a living.
Unfortunately, our hands are tied to what the various governments are doing to gain power and we are the ones usually paying the price
France for example, prior to the last Paris bombings, France had already done 3 oil infrastructure bombings in Syria (the last one was just one week before the Paris incident).
So unfortunately the media leaves these details out and the masses hear and think that the Paris incident (and others) were just because they're Muslims and they hate us (yes, they do hate us, I'm not disagreeing with that point).