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More Stuff We Can't Blame On Trump Despite what lamestream media might be trying to hammer into our heads right now, the latest installment of America’s ongoing racial nightmare is simply more of number 44’s malignant ‘legacy’ rearing its ugly head. As I have documented in several past articles, he and his wife went out of their way to keep the racial pot stirred. And the froth of boiling hatred we are now experiencing, as common sense should be screaming to us all, has little to do with a paltry seven months of Donald Trump. But if you are insisting that our nation’s current unrest is attributable to Trump I will agree with you, insofar as liberal media’s/entertainment’s using him in lathering up the mindless liberal numbskulls who get their values, history and ‘political science’ from SNL and Comedy Central. Eight years of reawakening a racial wound that was aching to heal was what we got from Barack and Michelle Nevertheless, whether it was blatantly inflammatory oratory at one of several black college convocations, or their never ending, determinedly racially agitating commentary following some white guy (cop or commoner) defending himself against any formidable black combatant - the Obamas never missed a trick in pointing out our differences of skin color. And their arguments for never letting that difference rest were never any deeper than that. Eight years of reawakening a racial wound that was aching to heal was what we got from Barack and Michelle. And, worse than that, that whole senseless conflict was freshly opened and promoted to the few generations who had not been introduced to Dr. Martin Luther King while he was alive, or what had necessitated his vital ministry of arbitration and reconciliation to America. Barely two years into Mr. Obama’s administration, I will never forget “Beat Whitey Night” that happened at the formerly, annually completely peaceful Iowa State Fair (in IOWA, for crying out loud!). ‘BWN’ was a bunch of teenage black kids running around the fairgrounds in Des Moines randomly, physically thumping white fairgoers. That night they downed two white police officers who tried to merely settle that mob after it had attacked and severely busted up one white guy’s (‘whitey’) face. Shortly after that, and not too long after Obama’s melodrama of publicly ‘adopting’ Trayvon Martin, the ‘New Black Panthers’ (NBP) felt secure in offering a ‘dead or alive’ bounty on the white man they had declared ‘guilty’ in Martin’s death. Trayvon Martin’s death became a circus for Obama’s racist platform. Indeed Mr. and Mrs. Obama, if honest historians have the courage to tell the truth, were the antithesis of everything Dr. King worked and died for A former NBP official at that time confidently declared: “Obama, he on my side, now!” (sic) And the group’s ultra-racist leader, Hashim Nzinga, said as much and included former Attorney General Eric Holder as an ally in their effort. Panthers had encouraged the wholesale slaughter of whites and their babies. The White House response to all that was - silence. I am forced to recall a statement every lawyer knows and leans on: “By your silence we understand you to agree.” Indeed Mr. and Mrs. Obama, if honest historians have the courage to tell the truth, were the antithesis of everything Dr. King worked and died for. In fact, in even the most brief looks back over our shoulders, the Obamas proved to be unbelievably perfect plants, vehicles, by which America was horribly infected with all sorts of problems that our pure hearted forefathers had scarcely anticipated. In the years prior to America’s first and worst black president, the buds of healing had pushed forth new growth in our nation. Racism, when GW left office, simply wasn’t that big of an issue. It was as though an oppressive drape was slowly lifting. FINALLY we were beginning to claim a really STRONG commonality: WE WERE SIMPLY MEN AND WOMEN, AMERICANS OF ALL COLORS, GETTING ON WITH LIFE. And AMERICA proved that by electing a black man as our president - twice. Obama’s entire presidency kept lifeblood flowing to the demons of race hate and class warfare And if anything good happened from 9-11, it was at least a tragedy that caused all Americans - regardless of color - to stand for the preservation of the goodness in our land. Of course, at either end of the bell curve, you have exceptions to any rule. But we were then experiencing a breather from the tensions of racial division that had so kept us from walking together as ‘AMERICANS ALL.’ Obama’s entire presidency kept lifeblood flowing to the demons of race hate and class warfare. At one college graduation he actually told black college students to “have confidence” in their “blackness”. Would a white president have survived telling white graduates to have confidence in their whiteness?! “Beyonce’ runs the world!” Barack once proudly declared. How stupid. Beyonce’, the often nearly naked singer who did the 2015 Superbowl halftime show (before MILLIONS of little kids and impressionable teens), was one way Barack and Michelle, by powerful association, expressed their brand of ‘blackness.’ I have mentioned this before because it truly amazes me… In that halftime program Beyonce and thirty scantily clad, booty-shaking babes were ostensibly all about legitimizing and promoting militant ‘blackness’. The star herself wore faux bandoliers, and her troupe of dancers sported the black berets made famous by the black panthers. The Obamas were absolutely fawning in support of the show in a pre-game interview. It appears that a “black power” show was their idea of a great time. Shortly after that, the bloody and destructive Charlotte riots happened - during which Obama’s head lawyer, Lynch, effectively underwrote the ‘protesters’ in applauding their right of ‘peaceful assembly’. More rhetorical sleight of hand. Since liberal media went and ‘lost control’ in allowing Donald Trump to become president, ‘privileged’ white America is expected to sit by and shut up and take all the abuse that the antifa, snowflakes, BLM and their sympathizers can dish out. And that rabble which constitutes the muscle of Obama’s shadow government is busy punishing America for having elected President Trump. And when white Americans point out that the racist venom, the indisputable produce of eight years of racist Obama, is being used as a crowbar to help pry us all apart, we are declared to be ‘haters’ using ‘hate speech’. Suddenly David Duke alleges that his klansmen were largely responsible for Trump’s election. The Libs are fast to jump on that: “See! Duke and his followers constitute most of white, privileged America! Trump loves the klan! And that being the case, we need to tear down anything that reminds us of the Civil War or the Rebel Flag!” Obama’s presidency was saturated with anti-white, anti-American, anti-Christian rhetoric And that noise makes about as much sense as destroying all Volkswagens because Hitler loved that car. And we need to tear down all the pyramids because they were built by slave labor. (But, since a lot of those slaves were Jewish - and Islamic terrorists have told us we had better join them in hating the Jews - we should probably just let the pyramids stay where they are.) It was not the Klan that elected Donald Trump. It was Americans of all colors who were fed up with the path Obama had taken us down, and who were appalled at the possibility of Hillarious completing the job. Obama’s presidency was saturated with anti-white, anti-American, anti-Christian rhetoric. It was a great distraction. While he was turning America against itself we were oblivious to the even bigger cancer he was nurturing in bankrupting our nation, opening our borders and funding nuclear Islam. Now Donald Trump, along with everything else being thrown at him, is labeled a racist and credited with all of our current upheaval. And he did all that in seven months? I don’t see how anyone could. As you read the history of America, in the process you will surely accrue a little knowledge of the characters of the people who brought our great nation to life. In that discovery it becomes painfully obvious that the founders assumed that two very necessary, prerequisite ingredients would always be present if our nation was to survive and prosper. The most important was a godly conscience. Only slightly behind that priority was that the people be informed. Today both those components are precious scarce http://canadafreepress.com/article/more-stuff-we-cant-blame-on-trump
The Ultimate Cheat Sheet for Dealing With Haters Posted by James Altucher It’s easy to get anonymous people to hate you. Have an opinion. Be creative. Be yourself. But sometimes it gets worse. I’ve had death threats, legal threats, I’ve lost friends, even family, over things I’ve written. I’ve lost the respect of many I still respect. Articles get written then people hate me even more. A hater can be anyone. A family member, a friend, a colleague, a teacher, a boss, or some random person you meet on the street or the Internet. People who were friends forever can suddenly be haters. You HAVE to have the tools to deal with it. It always feels miserable. I am never cavalier about it. I wanted to like these people in some cases. 20 year friendships. Friends I thought I would have forever. Now… gone. Most haters are just invisible, anonymous, just trying to get in your head because that’s THEIR particular method of having a human connection. Example: someone wrote a review of my audio book the other day: “SIMPLY TERRIBLE… the author should NEVER EVER read his own books again. He has a lazy, mumbling speech that made it difficult to give him credibility right off the bat. He sounded a bit disinterested, like it was a bother to pass along these precious gems on knowledge to us, the poor miserable audience.” I’m not fishing for compliments. Some people like my audio book, some people don’t. But it reminds me of 7th grade, when we had to take turns reading from a book in a class called Woodshop. Who would’ve thought that in Woodshop I would learn all the basic skills that allowed me to build businesses and develop meaningful relationships later in life? Well, not me, and I was right. I learned nothing there. The only great moment that happened to me in woodshop was when the prettiest girl in school ran up to me and said, “Quick, quick, what psychiatrist talks all the time about sex?” And I said, “Freud” and then she ran away to have a deep conversation with the woodshop teacher twenty years older than her. I definitely don’t remember what we were reading in the woodshop “book” that day but when it was my turn to speak, Christin Herholz said, “oh no, not HIS voice again.” So maybe that reviewer is right. Maybe Christin is actually the reviewer! Synchronicity! (Jung). No matter what we do in life, we get some people who hate us, who make fun of us, who gossip about us, who backstab us, who take money from us or do something to try and ruin our reputation, who threaten us, who tease us, who frighten us. SO LISTEN TO ME: these are the rules how to deal with haters – the anonymous ones, the ones in your face, the ones at work, the ones you can’t avoid, family, and people you love. It’s hard to do. Sometimes I can’t do them. But bit by bit I get better at these rules. And when I get better, I can see better results in my life. I hope you will also. I) IT’S ABOUT THEM This is a bit of a cliche but it’s true. Behind every Anger is a Fear. Whoever hates, is also afraid of something. This doesn’t mean you say, “poor baby, he’s just afraid.” But it’s just worth noting. For instance, in the above review, the reviewer said, “the poor miserable audience”. Maybe her fear is of being poor and miserable and so she hears someone saying that to her no matter who is talking. This is her problem in life right now. Often people say, “oh, don’t worry, they are just jealous.” Maybe they are. Maybe they aren’t. We can never read their minds. It’s none of my business why someone thinks something of me. But something is going on in their lives that is bringing up a fear. And they indulge the fear by having an anger towards you. By projecting their own fear onto you. For a brief moment, you become the monster that has been hiding onside of them. Anger is just fear indulged. II) IT ALSO REALLY IS ABOUT YOU Most people who hate me I never even think about. But some haters push buttons. Some accidentally know how to get under my skin. Or not accidentally. Like when a family member hates you and knows EXACTLY what buttons to press (“you never bathe”, etc). When someone pushes a button, I get angry and maybe even defensive. But it’s NOT because they said something horrible. It’s because under the fleshy armor of rage, I’m afraid they might be right. I might not even admit this to myself. They put the knife in, after all, so I can accuse them. But the reality is I might be twisting the knife in even further. Take the above example again. I pulled it out from 100s I could’ve used. Not because it was particularly mean. But I just realized I then told you a story of what happened to me in seventh grade when a girl made fun of my voice. So maybe I really am afraid I have some weird sort of voice. I don’t know. It’s just worth noting to myself. When all you do is “note” something to yourself, it at least separates it out from the non-stop chatter in the head. It lets you identify it and put it in it’s own special cage. This makes it easier to identify and deal with and maybe even learn something about yourself. III) THE 24 HOUR RULE If someone attacks you in any way, you might get bad feelings. If it’s a public attack then others might get bad feelings. People will say, “Jane said this about James so he must be an idiot.” Or it might an office politics attack. Or an attack in a relationship. The 24 Hour Rule works in almost every case. If you never respond to the initial attack, it goes away in 24 hours. If you respond EVEN ONCE, then reset the clock. It’s another 24 hours as it spreads through the spider web of human interaction. This is why some battles go on for years. Nobody stops responding. The attack continues until one person dies. And as the Onion states: World Mortality Rate Holds Steady At 100%. IV) THE 30/30/30 RULE I had a few posts where I stole the same image of a woman doing yoga poses on a beach. I got some criticism for always using images of a sexy woman. I also got criticism for taking the images and not giving credit. Then the woman in the images actually wrote me. I told her I was getting this criticism. She told me her whole beautiful story which I included in my last book. But one thing she said was that for every creative thing you do: 1/3 will love you, 1/3 will hate you, and 1/3 won’t care. Which means you should do what you love. You should do the best you can. You should try to do the things that will help you improve every day. And when bad comments come, just put them in that 1/3 bucket where it belongs. V) DELETE I’m always happy when someone disagrees with me. I don’t mind that. But often people are incapable of expressing disagreement and it comes out in a way that is obnoxious or hateful. When I can, I delete them. I can put “delete” in quotes. Sometimes its not a blog commenter but someone in real life. I delete them also. I don’t speak to people who are bad for me. What if it’s a boss or someone you have to speak to? Well, I don’t engage with them. I let them do their thing. I nod hello in the hallways. I don’t kiss anyone’s *** to get them to like me, not even my daughters. Everyone gets their time in the “time out” box. And eventually, they can come out again if they behave. What if it’s someone screaming at you on the phone? Just do this: “I have to go”. That’s worked against me, particularly when I was younger and wanted to scream more. “Why are you DOING THIS TO ME!?” And it felt very painful. But it made me behave better next time. VI) HATE IS CONTAGIOUS Someone tweeted awhile ago: “James Altucher = #humangarbage”. I don’t know why he tweeted it. I didn’t know who he was. But I got angry for a second. I didn’t follow any of the above commandments. I looked him up. He works at AOL. I tried to figure out how to get him fired. He made his one tweet but then it gave me maybe 1000 thoughts. The worst thing you can do to your body is stab it. Anger is an emotional stab at your emotional body. Some religions say you should show compassion to your enemies. I don’t know. This is really hard to do. The best I can do is recognize that I don’t know this person, and that every additional thought is another way for me to stab myself. Then the infection spreads inside of me, consumes me. I don’t like to stab myself. VII) YOU’LL NEVER KNOW I could’ve contacted the guy and said, “I just need to know: why do you think I am human garbage.” But this is one of those death bed moments. People have said, “I am really glad I found out why that random stranger called me human garbage” on their death bed exactly zero times in the history of the universe. There’s no need to know. And even if you do finally know…it will always turn out there was no good reason. VIII) RESISTANCE IS FUTILE Let’s say someone does actually have a reason for hating you. And it’s easy to refute. Like they hate you because you are from Rhode Island but actually you are from Canada. You can say, “But I’m from Canada” and they will say, “Ugh, that’s even worse.” Nobody ever changes their mind. Change is hard. Quitting cigarettes is very hard, almost impossible for many people. Hating is even more addictive so imagine how hard it is to change someone’s mind. Facts don’t matter. Defending yourself makes it worse (see the 24 Hour Rule). Even a history of friendship doesn’t matter. You can say, “We’ve been friends for 20 years. Are you really going to let this get in the way of that?” And the answer is “Yes.” Because they can’t help themselves. Because it’s about some fear they have. Because it’s about some fear you have. And never the twain shall meet. IX) THEY LOOK STUPID HAVING SEX That’s all you ever really need to know about your haters. They all grunt and drool and look stupid. If all you do is think of this rule about someone who hates you, then you can ignore all of the other rules. X) TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS Hate can’t last forever. Often it turns into a dull simmer. The sun that was so bright at noon, becomes a haze of purples and deep orange by twilight. This doesn’t mean that you and the hater are now friends. It just means that the wound that was opened will eventually close up, and leave a tiny scar, a reminder but nothing more. Whether it was a betrayal. An ex-partner. An ex-lover. A commenter on a blog. The key is to practice shortening the time. You do this with the other nine commandments above. You do this with the daily practice of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health I recommend in my book. I say “the daily practice” not because I want you to buy my book. Don’t buy it. It’s so easy you don’t need to read anything other than the above paragraph. Do all this and the hate passes right through you. It’s hard to avoid all the haters. They are in your face sometimes. But you can do these methods. For some people hate and anger and bitterness and regret last for years. Sometimes the time it takes to heal a wound lasts longer than a lifetime. This is a waste of a lifetime.That’s ok also. Nobody is requiring you to have a fulfilling life. It’s totally your choice to waste your life. And since many people will hate you as you stick your head out of the sand again and again (as I hope you do), you will have many opportunities to ruin your life. Enjoy them. Sometimes (not every time) the more people who hate you, the more it means you are getting out of the comfort zone. You are creating and growing. But hopefully your woulds heal more and more quickly. I say “your” but I really mean “me”. I hope my wounds every day heal more quickly than the day before. I wrote this post for me. When a hater takes his or her stab, I try to use the above techniques to maybe learn about myself. And if I can’t learn a lot then maybe I can learn a little. And if I can’t learn a little, then at least I will try to avoid getting sick. And if I don’t get sick, then I will try to be thankful. And I move onto the next thing I can do. The next place where I will try to find love, creativity, and fulfillment. http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2014/03/the-ultimate-cheat-sheet-for-dealing-with-haters/
How To Deal With Crappy People Posted by James Altucher Ugh, I’m disgusted with my brain. I see people walking down the street and there’s like this killer inside me providing running nasty commentary about each person. Do you do this also? I have to stop myself often: “you don’t know this person who is randomly crossing the street. You can’t possibly know that he’s a cheating lying rich Hamptons-worshipping whoremongering obnoxious trust fund baby with a 17 year old mistress on the side who doesn’t wipe, who doesn’t wash, who would wish nothing better than to see you die”. You can’t know that! So why do I think it? Most people crossing the street probably think that about me also. Who is that freak? Is he homeless? Why can’t he comb his hair? Why is his fly open? Is he a child molesting pervert? Most people are pretty crappy. But not all. And even the ones who are no good and not worthy of your time need a system for you to use so YOU can be happier and leave this lecherous gossipy crack addict that's in your head on the road and kick him or her to the curb. There are only four types of people. If you understand in advance how to deal with each of these four types you will be infinitely happier. Ultimately, interacting with the four types in the way I describe below will make one fit firmly into the first type, however difficult it is. That’s the goal. You don’t want to go through life unhappy. There is no path to happiness. Happiness is the path. In an earlier article on my blog I gave my own Daily Practice that has helped me out of every tough situation in my life for the past 15 years (when I’ve been disciplined enough to apply it). It has 4 legs. Many of us focus in our daily lives on only one of the legs (Physical, Emotional, Mental, or Spiritual) but we need all the legs in balance to really sit down at the dinner table without falling. The Practice works and brings one from the brink to success and then more success. I believe in it more than I’ve ever believed in any hocus-pocus anything ever. But to develop the emotional leg of that practice takes a lot of work and I’ve written nothing on this. Probably because it’s the hardest. In my talks people ask about the Mental side, the idea muscle. But the Emotional side, equally as important, is much harder. The key is to identify the FOUR types of people and discipline yourself on how you should approach these people. The Four Types of People #1 Happy People. There are people who are genuinely happy in the world. Sure they have their suffering. Everyone does. But a lot of people really are pretty satisfied with their lives at this very moment. A natural reflex (not for everyone, but certainly for some people) is to resent people for being happy. Who doesn’t do that some of the time? Raise your hand! Let’s say someone lives in 20,000 square foot house in Connecticut, has a sexy wife (or sexy husband), and is genuinely happy. It’s hard not to resent such a person. This resentment will block the Daily Practice from having beneficial outcomes in your life. In 2002 when I was pitching hedge fund managers to invest money with me I often ran into the exact person described above. And their families. The sexy wives in short shorts. The hedge fund managers served gourmet meals for lunchtime by loving cooks. You can’t fake resentment. You can’t put on a mask. If someone is at a costume ball, you can easily see they are wearing a mask. You have to genuinely be happy for these people. It’s so hard to grab a single ounce of happiness in this world, please be happy for the ones who are happy today. Train your mind to be sincerely happy for their happiness. Catch your resentments and jealousies before they turn into monsters. Carrie Fisher once said, “nobody wants to read about a good looking happy person”. She was making a commentary on comedy screenwriting and she’s probably right about that. But for you to go from success to success you must first be sincerely happy for the people who are happy around you. Like attracts. Picture all the people you might resent. Spend five minutes a day training your brain to be happy for them. You’ll die lonely in the jungle if you don’t do this and everyone will forget you ever existed. #2 People in pain. I’ve been unhappy often. Particularly in the past decade. Sometimes things just don’t work out. Sometimes people die. I think the level of unhappiness and pain I’ve had in the past decade (versus prior decades) has taught me compassion towards others in a similar boat. Try to cultivate that compassion. It doesn’t mean you have to drain yourself to help those less fortunate. But even showing compassion and doing what you can goes a long way. If you can share what you have, all the better. If you can give a word of advice, do it. Unhappy person can easily turn into category #4 below. You always have to protect yourself first. Be compassionate but keep your boundaries. Your goal is your own peace of mind throughout the day, so you can focus on your own success. The fastest way to do that is show compassion to those less fortunate. What you give, comes back tenfold. Try this exercise: picture everyone in your life who is unhappy or in pain, spend five minutes picturing them in a happier state. This trains your mind. #3 Good people. This is different from “Happy”. Good people don’t always have ulterior motives. Some people legitimately want to help others. There’s an initial impulse (at least with me) to suspect them. To resent them. Maybe even to envy them. I envy Bill Gates being able to donate $100 billion to charity. But the best thing for me is to catch myself doing that (almost a meditation in itself) and say, “this guy is good. I wish I could be as good as him. I hope I can help him in any way I can.” Be grateful for all the people good to you. Five minutes a day. Doesn’t have to be with incense burning and in the lotus position. On a bus, smile and think of the people you are grateful for. (I’m starting to believe Gates has become a genuinely good guy) And finally, the most important category of all. The category that wastes a quadrillion brain cycles a day around the world. What man can say he is Jesus and not fall prey to the ongoing anger and pain of dealing with this next category: #4 Crappy people: People who will do you harm, no matter what you do, for no reason at all. They never will get it. They will say and do things to you and they will never ever understand how evil they are. And you will hate them. HATE THEM. And they knock on the door of your brain at three in the morning and they want to yell at you. And you yell back. And they yell back. And on and on. All day. All afternoon. The ongoing conversation with the ****iest people in the world. They will torture you, kill you, and slit the thoughts out of your mind and not even care because they think they are doing the right thing. You know who I’m talking about. Because you have a good 20 or 30 of these in your life just like I do. They might even be former friends, relatives, neighbors, bureaucrats, whatever, whoever, whenever. They swoop down on your life and are just plain crappy and they won’t even know it. They won’t ever know who they are so there is no way to convince them. That’s the trap. Sometimes, in a weak moment, I think to myself: What if I run into them again? How badly I will hurt and destroy them. Maybe just casually walk up to them and smash a glass over their head so their nose is broken, glasses broken on the floor, blood all over their face. Arm broken after I hold the elbow and stomp on it. STOP! Similarly, I was talking to someone the other day who couldn’t stop talking about someone who had wronged her fourteen years ago. Stop! You are an idiot. And it’s boring already. It was your fault anyway! This is the worst category. I’ll tell you one more anecdote. Two seconds ago someone posted a horrible comment on my blog. I won’t repeat it. Racist, mean, rude to me, whatever. I deleted the post, blocked the user, blocked his IP address. And then I was going to send him an email telling him what I thought of him. I was angry. Then I stopped myself. You have to stop yourself. Remember this: When you get in the mud with a pig, you get dirty and the pig gets happy. There is only ONE only one way to deal with these people in a way that will make you happier instead of sadder. ONE WAY. And it always works. This is the most important part of the Emotional leg of the Daily Practice. COMPLETELY IGNORE THE EVIL PEOPLE: Completely ignore them. Don’t think about them. Don’t talk to them. Don’t write them. Most important: Don’t give them advice. They will NEVER listen to your advice. It’s arrogant and stupid to think they will. It will only lead to more cycles of pain for you. The goal for me is to stop all cycles that cause me any pain at all. Giving advice to crappy people will only result in more pain for you. That’s the only possible result. It’s Much better to be happy than to flush knotted up brown advice down a toilet that caused you agony to push out. This is hard. Most important: Never gossip about them behind their backs. Just completely disregard. We don’t care about their happiness or how evil they are. We only care about you. Its hard to do. Never ever talk about them behind their backs. Repeat this 500 times. This is hard also. Because it’s an addiction. This isn’t easy. It’s a daily discipline. It’s much easier to do a 1000 pushups. I had an article recently on the Wall St Journal site that had 971 comments. No exaggeration when I say 950 of the smartest anonymous trolls on the internet called me an idiot moron and worse. I ignored all the comments. Great. I could care less. I was the winner there. Then I put another article up on a supposedly peaceful site about Buddhism and yoga, the Elephant Journal. Great site. I post there regularly. The topic of my post was that 18 year olds should basically not be sent into war. I like peace. Better to send 40 year olds. They are closer to death anyway. The most hateful responses popped up. People comparing me to Hitler. I was so shocked I wasted one whole night until 2 in the morning responding to these people but ignoring the many emails I get that genuinely support me and that I want to be friends with. Why did I do that? I wanted my haters to like me. I wanted them to agree with me and love me. Its like putting a gun to your head and saying, “unless you do what I say, I will kill myself”. You’re going to end up firing that gun. I lost my discipline for a whole night and then I slept late and it took at least 36 hours to get back on track. What a waste. For nothing! Its hard to keep up this practice. But you fail and die unhappy if you don’t. And did I win a trophy for doing this? Was it a huge trophy made of gold? For responding to all of those comments? Did everyone/anyone write back and say, “you’re right. I’m sorry. Now I LOVE you! Let’s all be lovers!” Of course not! They just want to fight. I got in the mud with pigs. I got dirty. If someone says, “what do you think of so-and-so”, your worst enemy, you say back, “So-and-so who?” And that’s it. No explanation. Nothing more. “So and so who?” Change subject right then. This is the emotional leg of the Daily Practice and must be balanced with the other three legs. Any deviation will set you back. Any addiction to the opposite of the above behaviors will eat you alive like cockroaches feasting on your heart. Have a good night. http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/06/how-to-deal-with-crappy-people/