So here is some back ground first. Married @ 19 years old, SHOTGUN WEDDING" not really but we had our first child about 3 months after the wedding. Second child two years later. Fast forward, first child graduated from college the second still going and works for me at a floor company which I do not own but I do run the day to day ops. The first child gets married in May, the boy has moved out for about a year now. So here's my deal, both of them pop in when they are in need of food, money, comfort, or Momma to cater to them. There is never for warning, no idea when they want to pop in. They just come intake what they want and do what they want, total disregard for our home or our feelings. I believe they use us. They will leave the place a mess, leave dirty clothes and drive me absolutely out of my mind. I had big plans for V -Day with my wife only to come home after work and find my son who took the day off( because he had a birthday party with his bud on Thursday) sleeping it off all day, thus killing all my plans with my wife of 22 years of marriage. FYI. We have been together since 96". Am I wrong? Am I being selfish ? I would love to have them come to see us and not to have us cater to them, but it has not worked out that way. I feel that my time is up to God so I would like to have a little time where it's just me and my Lala, we have never had that time, and of course I realize I made this bed but I would like to get a little bit of advice and or feed back. FYI. Trying to type this with the I-phone please forgive any errors.